As my clients prepare their funeral arrangements, many are considering the impact of their passing on beloved grandchildren. Selecting a book (or a few) in advance can be a beautiful gift not only for your young family members, but also for their parents.
We don’t always have the right words, but these authors did that legwork for us.
Part of the Ordinary Terrible Things series, the author captures the hurt, confused and indignant interior voice of a young reader as he copes with his grandmother’s death and funeral. This book doesn’t try to answer questions about the unknown but instead seeks to explore a wide range of feelings after a young boy’s confusing loss.
The font on the cover was nearly enough to turn me off, but it was a $0.25 at the library book sale so I grabbed it and it’s quickly become a family favorite. The gentle but direct illustrations showing a range of life and death against an unjudging white background allowing even the youngest reader to explore the concept of life cycles. Progressing from small insects to human beings, it doesn’t shy away from the real truth. Kids love being told the truth.
Another gentle book for younger readers, this story follows a life cycle without ever directly using the word death or directly discussing funerals. After collecting the remnants of his beloved Flower and burying them in the countryside, Digger finds a field of flowers have sprung up in their place. Never patronizing or sanctimonious, this hopeful story acknowledges that life can be beautiful, even after a loss. What a beautiful message to leave behind for your grandchildren and their parents.
As part of an in-depth advanced planning process, I’m able to make tailored recommendations based on your particular family situation. If you’re looking to provide some extra loving guidance to a younger family member, I can help you find the right materials and create the perfect message.
What a gift.